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How To Talk With Your Kids About Disasters & Emergencies
Written by Chris Halbohm   
Wednesday, 29 May 2013 17:46

Over the recent weeks and months, we've seen a lot of disasters and emergency situations - the Boston bombings, Hurricane Sandy, and even the Waldo Canyon Fire, to name a few.

It is natural that you may be wondering, "What should I tell my child?", "*Should* I tell him/her?", "What if I don't know what to say?", or "Can they handle it?"

Whether you have decided to prepare them in advance or you have simply been faced straight-on with an emergency where you simply have to talk with them, these tips will help in both scenarios.

Whether it is natural disasters or terrorist attacks, realize that honesty matters.
Here's how to handle talking with your kids about such things:

• Ask what they already know and ask open-ended questions to determine what they already know. It is better to know where they stand in the first place. Maybe they already "get it". And, remember that it's a good sign when *they* ask questions, too (vs. "shutting down").
• Be open about your own concerns - but not "overwhelmed" and not over-detailed. Try to come to terms with it yourself, and then model coping. Own the feelings and help them to do so. It's ok to be upset - or any of a wide range of emotions. Remind them that it is appropriate. And then, take the opportunity to teach them that those feelings can go away, change, improve, and so on.
• Inform them well. Talk about the things that are going on. Honesty is essential. Do not ignore things. That can be more damaging than frank conversation. Keep communication open for more talk later as things develop.
• Keep discussion on/about what you (and they) *can* be doing and what *is* being done for them and with them.
• Ask them if they have any questions or concerns - *even* about other/unrelated issues.
• Answer at a level they can understand.
• Be prepared to repeat information.
• Don't give false assurance. Do be reassuring and supportive, but don't make unrealistic promises. Don't say "this could never happen.." - Rather talk about disaster preparedness and discuss scenarios. This will help build them and their confidence up - and yours by they way - because you will all know what to do and how to handle it.
• Be mindful of the child's own temperament. Are they overly detached or overly anxious? Just be mindful and adjust accordingly.
• Be mindful to determine how upset they really are. Keep in mind that their actions speak louder than their words. Monitor them (gently) for symptoms - eg. anxiety or overwhelm (headaches, stomach aches).
• Take opportunities to re-frame. You might give them the chance to put their take on it. Say, for one example, "Hey, you know, that was pretty scary; what do you think about that?" You might be surprised at your child's resiliency and innocent "spin" on things, that might even be useful to you.
• Ask for help in dealing with child, if need to.
• Don't feel obligated to give reasons for what happened. You can say / admit, "I don't know".
• Try not to focus on blame.
• Help them deal with "secondary losses" that can tend to happen in disasters: Let them express upset but gently "curb" it when you feel that they need to be a little bit stronger; Facilitate them expressing.. (for example: discuss, draw pictures, play with toys, writing poems / stories); Actively find alternatives; Minimize the impact; Let them adjust to changes; Etc.
• Focus on what you and the child "can do" (vs. what "cannot do") that is meaningful to them - eg. taking preventative measures; community relief efforts; (eg. older kids) research facts about disasters (earthquakes, tsunamis, etc), how lives can be affected; helping others; etc.
• Re: Cognition - Consider age: teens may want to get involved (take action) more; young ones may need to be reminded that images on TV are just duplicates (shown again and again) and not "happening" over and over. Just be mindful how children's minds may work.
• Limit television, and be available to correct any misinformation.
• Continue with established routines as much as possible, even during a disaster.
• Model involvement and compassion.
• Give them ways to be involved. Develop Family Emergency Plans, teach them what to do in an emergency, and practice the plans frequently. There's comfort in knowing / feeling that there is something you can do. Develop their competence and to know that there are plans.
• Help them to identify (sort by) the things they see that are positive: Heroism and noticing there are people to help; Families grateful to be reunited; Others' assistance / giving..; What they have..; Hidden opportunities; Learning..; Signs of resilience; Etc.
• Remind them that you will do everything you can to make sure that they are safe.
As always, please call any time to discuss your needs and goals.

Last Updated on Sunday, 30 June 2013 11:06
 
Tip From This Weekend's Training on "The Read":
Written by Chris Halbohm   
Sunday, 06 May 2012 19:00
Tip From This Weekend's Training on "The Read":

"The Read" is the part where the client or student gets to discover how they think, their values, how they make decisions, etc. just by watching them for a few moments. This helps you to know what they need and how to best communicate with them.

The Tip for today?... A person's personality or "profile" can be context-specific. For example, a person could be more security-oriented when home taking care of the kids, but may be more freedom-oriented, fun-loving, casual, and open when at work or even at play. So, tip?... When using "The Read", even in your own business or personal life, be mindful of the person's bigger picture.

By the way - The next class for Basic Hypnosis Certification Training is coming up soon!...

Reminder: Organization Class To Be Given:

Client and local business owner, Jessica Bair will be presenting a class on "Finding the Tools to Get Life in Order".

Tomorrow Night!

Tues, May 8, 2012 - 7pm

at

Colorado Hypnosis

Topics will include: Categorizing clutter, Recycling (how and where), Being Selective, Vertical Spaces, Containers (best bang for your buck and where to buy) and time for ask the expert.

Space is limited. Cost is $10 per person. For more information and to RSVP contact This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it to reserve your space.

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Is This Your Closet?
Written by Chris Halbohm   
Tuesday, 24 April 2012 19:00
Is This Your Closet?

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Just like organizing your life and your mind, your personal space is important to be clear, too.

Here's A Message From Colorado Hypnosis Client & Class Presenter, Jessica Bair:

Do you consider yourself a disorganized person? Are you looking for new ideas to help you get organized? Ever wondered what was available in your own town to help you clear the clutter?

MAS Movement LLC and Professional Organizer Jessica Bair may have the answers for you.

Join us May 8 at 7pm for a discussion on Organizing: Finding the Tools to Get Life in Order. The Colorado Hypnosis Center has graciously offered to host our evening, they are located on the SE corner of Union and Academy (in the tallest building.)

Topics will include: Categorizing clutter, Recycling (how and where), Being Selective, Vertical Spaces, Containers (best bang for your buck and where to buy) and time for ask the expert.

Space is limited. Cost is $10 per person. For more information and to RSVP contact This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it to reserve your space.

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Tip For Today: How To Make Lasting Change... Step ONE, Identify The Pain & Hassles Of Your Problem. (Excerpted From The Hypnosis Seminar.)
Written by Chris Halbohm   
Sunday, 22 April 2012 19:00
Tip For Today: How To Make Lasting Change... Step ONE, Identify The Pain & Hassles Of Your Problem. (Excerpted From The Hypnosis Seminar.)

Some of you know the fun story I tell of the old man sitting on his porch with his dog settin' on a nail…

Often, we kid ourselves by not facing the real pain of the problem.

So, rather…

Why do you want to change? What pain and hassle is it causing you? Realize most people are motivated away-from-pain. Be emotionally honest with yourself. Take a moment to identify the real reasons that you want to change now. You may even write them out. However, writing them out isn't enough. For a few moments, be really, truly sensory about it - in other words, see, hear, feel the reasons. For example, a person won't change just for "health". However, if you can *feel* the result of the bad health - for example, the huffing and puffing up a hill - then that is a real start to motivation.

We'll talk about what next to do with that soon, in one of our next messages…

For now… Have you checked this out?…..

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Join Us For Movie Night!: Soul Surfer...
Written by Chris Halbohm   
Wednesday, 11 April 2012 19:00
Join Us For Movie Night!:
Soul Surfer...

 


  A champion surfer loses her left arm in a terrifying shark attack, but summons the determination to make an incredible comeback in this inspirational sports drama based on an incredible true story. A lifelong surfer who always felt at home in the sea, Bethany Hamilton (AnnaSophia Robb) honed her surfing skills in Kauai, and went on to compete in numerous surfing competitions. Then, one fateful Halloween morning, the wave-riding teen was taking part in a national surf competition when a 14-foot-long tiger shark emerged from the depths and changed her life in the blink of an eye. By the time Bethany reached shore, her left arm was almost completely gone. But just when it started to look like she would never ride a surfboard again, young Bethany used her faith and determination to reclaim the title of champion while being cheered on by her supportive parents (Dennis Quaid and Helen Hunt), and Sara (Carrie Underwood), the kind-hearted leader of a local youth group.

Tuesday, April 24, 7:00PM - at Colorado Hypnosis on N Union
This is a No-Cost EVENT - Register Here:
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TV News Story; Create A New Career; Quantum Leap Workshop Coming Up
Written by Chris Halbohm   
Thursday, 01 March 2012 19:00
TV News Story:
Congratulations and thanks to Abbie Burke for a well-reported news story on Fox 21 this week for sweeps week. We have been told that Fox picked it up nationally. The piece was informative and positive. Go here for the scoop...
=> http://www.coloradoconnection.com/news/story.aspx?id=724970#.T1Bc8M0xmyM

 

Create-A-New-Career -- ANNOUNCEMENT:
~ See Yourself In A New Career/Business As A Certified Hypnotist ~
~ Colorado Hypnosis Institute Now Accepting Applications ~
If you or someone you know is looking to make a sincere change such as a new career / job, CHI is now accepting applications. High School graduate or equivalent required. As a gift to you, we are offering a gratis Career And/Or Business Evaluation Consultation. Please, simply call to set up a time to visit and discuss your career or business goals. We will also explore and see if there's any kind of fit between you and us. Even if all that comes from it is simply the value of having had the conversation and discussing your personal needs, we are happy to help you with your life goals. PASS IT ON...

The Quantum-Leap Weekend Workshop, UPCOMING:
Recent seminar on Weight Loss, Stop Smoking, & Goals completed, &
New Workshop/Seminar, the Quantum Leap Weekend, coming up soon - Mar. 16, 2012

Have You Ever Seen a Class So "BEAMING"...?:


You Should Attend If You:
Like to help people and want to connect more
Have a business or you are in sales to boost productivity & rapport
Want to learn the skills of hypnosis and change
Want to learn how to "READ" people!
Want to be certified as a hypnotism practitioner
Need significant changes in your life (eg. you have a goal that you want to achieve)

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New Years Resolution Tip #2 of 2:
Written by Chris Halbohm   
Wednesday, 08 February 2012 19:00
New Years Resolution Tip #2 of 2:

Let it be easy. All too often, people make the mistake of fighting against their problem, instead of learning the skill sets to resolve it. Imagination is one tool for this. You will need to get your secondary benefit addressed, then learn the skills to get your goal, and then and only then, allow it to be permanent.

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Glen Eyrie is just off Garden Of The Gods Road:
3820 N. 30th St.
Colorado Springs, CO 80904

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New Years Resolution Tip #1 of 2:
Written by Chris Halbohm   
Sunday, 05 February 2012 19:00
New Years Resolution Tip #1 of 2:

Have a follow-through plan for after your goal is attained. Too often, people are mesmerized by the struggle of their goal. First, of course, learn the skills of how to get your goal, but then make sure that you have an after-the-fact visual goal model.

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Do You Know How To Comply With The New Socio-economic Ethic & Standard in Business & Interpersonal Skills...?
Written by Chris Halbohm   
Monday, 09 January 2012 19:00
Do You Know How To Comply With The New Socio-economic Ethic & Standard in Business & Interpersonal Skills...?


Many people (from the 'comforted' to the 'competitive') worry about whether or not they will actually be able to accomplish their goals

We cover more of this in our Quantum Leap / NLP Training Weekend.

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Last Updated on Saturday, 28 July 2012 13:53
 
How To Make a Quantum Leap For Your Personal Goals And/Or Your Business For The New Year
Written by Chris Halbohm   
Monday, 19 December 2011 19:00
Help For Your New Goals...

How To Make a Quantum Leap For Your Personal Goals And/Or Your Business For The New Year

Many people (from the 'comforted' to the 'competitive') worry about whether or not they will actually be able to accomplish their goals in a real way. …and then further, to have them "stick" long term.

Oftentimes, folks feel out of control with themselves - and don't even know why they're doing it.

Often, a person can be feeling embarrassed and suffering secret pain.

The frustration alone can be debilitating. One may find themselves thinking, "well, I goofed up today, so what's the point in trying tomorrow," or "I am able to control the rest of my life, why can't I control this (eg.) eating…" So, the fear of even really trying takes over their thinking.

Here are just a few reasons why:
• suffering failure expectancy - People often go toward a goal thinking it will be hard.
• 78% of those who set New Year resolutions fail.
• People often worry about what to do with themselves if they actually do get their desired result. They don't have a follow-through plan for after the goal is reached.
• And, so on…

Your goals may be …
• Personal - physical fitness, quit a nasty habit, boost confidence
• Relationships - real connection and intimacy, communication
• Business - increased sales, motivation, customer communication

The truth is that you can. My grandfather used to say, "You just need the right tools for the job."

The following tips should be considerably helpful.

Revelation vs. "breakthrough". Become comfortable with the idea that there is not any "wall" to "break through" - not really. You simply have to get real and honor whatever the truth may be in the situation. It may or may not be what you want to see or hear, but, if it's the truth, then this is revelation; It's insight. This alone is often enough to take much of the effort out of the action.

Insofar as one can realize this, he/she will do very well at reaching excellent goals in a real way.

Some indicators of lasting success:
• A feeling that it is no longer a problem - it's "done".
• Real appreciation and gratitude for those who have done it before them.
• A sense of sincere honor for what they've achieved.

Breaking 'failure expectancy' - The harder you perceive it to be, the more difficult the task. The easier you believe it will be, the easier it is. It's a lot like that commercial, "What's in your wallet?" Well, what's running in the back of your mind really?

You're going to have to accept the idea that it is possible to get your goal. You may need to learn a few new, key tools, but, it is absolutely possible. All too often people throw out the baby with the bathwater when trying new "advice". And that is a disaster for the lives of the persons around them who perhaps want to enjoy them or need them at their best. This is only the accidental thinking that it's hard to build up hope.

When trying something new to get a goal that they've struggled with for so long, one would do well to have positive expectation.

Make real results real in your mind… Like "I can make wonderful choices. I love the energy level. I never thought I could enjoy drinking water. Looking forward to the weeks to come" - Linda Wilson, client.

You have to get excited about a compelling future where the result is not only possible, it is doable, with the right focus and intent.

It is as though you all of a sudden realize that it's worth taking new action. As one of the attendees at our recent Hypnosis Intensive / Open House put it, "realizing my ability to awaken and be in charge of my perceptions is empowering." Martha N.

You become compelled to take more action and keep discovering the real answers…

We cover more of this in our Quantum Leap / NLP Training Weekend.

WARNING: We now have a new socio-economic ethic & standard (especially in business). This is especially urgent if you are a leader of any kind in the community.

Business people will have to come to realize: how to give back that is not just "whitewashing"; the new brand of customer service that is neither the "your way, right away" nor the assembly-line mentality but something entirely else; and knowing when to have honor and follow…; etc. etc.

Getting your goal needs to be ecological.

People who don't operate in these new ways will suffer the consequences, not only in their own life, but causing distress to others around them who need them at their best - namely customers, family, etc. Those who surrender to this new dynamic will achieve well while helping others AND being truthful. More about this in a later piece.

Mastering control creation. Imagination always wins over will power. Think of someone you know (maybe yourself) who's tried to stop a bad habit or begin to do something new as a lifestyle change, only to shakily and incessantly suffer from worry "I don't know if I can do it well enough…"

Also - You will have to accept that we as humans operate/act based on emotion first justified by rationalization later. We tend to act on a felt need, and then afterward, we tell ourselves something like "well I needed such-n-such anyway…" - which HOPEFULLY is true. So, it will still be a good decision. …Just know the dynamics and learn to master them.

Also, as a side note, keep in mind that you must come to master your emotional drivers - eg. we are motivated away from pain and toward pleasure; and, learn to change the meaning of communication by shifting the tone of voice, size, etc.; etc.

All too often people believe that they are under the thumb of their problem, whereas really, all it takes usually is learning a lesson or two and looking at it a different way.

 

It is said that you are either "positively affecting others with your excellence or infecting them with your mediocrity." You must try to be in a resource state - actually be of quality service to others around you and not deprive them of the best version of yourself.

The best version of yourself is when good behaviors come automatically to you.
Those who succeed will become stronger and of much more value to their families and markets they serve.

Those who don't will suffer accordingly - their coworkers, family, and others around them suffering the most deleterious effects.

Although many fail at New Year resolutions, for those who do succeed, it is still proven to be an effective timing and motivator to make real changes and get goals accomplished.

Last Updated on Saturday, 28 July 2012 13:56
 
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